Only Judging Ourselves

I see a lot of judgement these days, friends. It’s certainly not normal to our souls, so it must be something we’ve been programmed to do. Culture is a big culprit. News programs, pundits, comics – people we trust to give us “information” – are constantly judging others, presuming bad motives, ignoring contradicting facts, etc. And so we tend to think that “right and wrong” and “good and bad” thinking is normal. It is not.

Whenever we name what’s “right” and “wrong” in the world, we imagine the good things as being magically within ourselves, whereas all the bad problems are on the outside. Wow, isn’t that convenient? And we think that if we can just get rid of all the bad people, everything would be fine. But that’s fairy tale thinking… doomed to fail. All it results in is a constant state of unhappiness. And we do it to ourselves!

“If only it were all so simple! If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.”
Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

Here’s the kicker: the only time we look for what’s “right” or “wrong”… is when we believe there’s something wrong with us!

The true battle in life is to accept the parts of ourselves that we were taught, as innocent young children, were “wrong.” That means that if you were raised to be “selfless,” you have to discover and accept the parts of you that are “selfish.” Getting rid of selfish people is never going to be a solution. Accepting your selfishness is. Likewise, if you think others are “racist,” you need look no further than within your own heart… and accept your own racism. It was never truly yours… it was simply conditioned into you. Accept it in yourself. See how it got there… see the innocence of it, see it with compassion… and you’ll finally be able to accept it in others. You won’t have to search out culprits anymore. That’s how you’ll know. You’ll simply see your past thinking as ignorance… and not evil. Each person’s stance is just as valid as ours… and just like ours, it comes from conditioning outside themselves… and deserves the same amount of patience and respect we must give ourselves to resolve them… patience and respect that perhaps we didn’t get from our parents… but can give to ourselves, today.

Once we allow all the parts of us to be “right”… even the ones we were taught were “wrong,” we won’t even use the words “right” and “wrong” anymore. We’ll see how useless they were, how self-condemning!

“Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.” —Wayne Dyer

Only by giving up self-judgements, seeing our true beauty — warts and all! — will we ever be able to truly free our hearts… and never judge others again!

Finally getting enough!

“To come to possess Everything, seek to possess Nothing.
To come to be Everything, seek to be Nothing.”
St. John of the Cross

Let’s stop pretending that a few trinkets will satisfy us, dear friends. We’re always wanting more. Only Everything will be enough for us, but we will never “get it” as an independent self, a “something,” a “person.” From the starting point of already being separate, we’ll never find it. Sooner or later we’ll all go back to square one, admit to ourselves that we know nothingand never needed to! – and drop this illusion of being a separate entity.

There’s no other way to find the Everything we are so desperately seeking.

 “All we can know is that we know nothing. And that’s the height of human wisdom.” –Leo Tolstoy
“I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.” –Plato

When we come to accept All That Is, all that we see happening around us, as being Just As It Is, we no longer need to understand it, improve it or change it. We stop resisting… which is what keeps us unhappy… always searching for more. Because when we allow the world to be What It Is (without complaint!), only then can we begin to lose this idea of separateness… and come into possession of what we’ve been seeking: more of ourselves.. Finally, we’ll never want MORE of anything. We’ll be satisfied.

Everything will be enough for us!

This means transcending thought. This means transcending understanding. This means transcending language. We simply sit and smile, like a child… and wonder at This Perfect World, playing itself out like a beautiful movie.

Yes, once we allow Everything, we find that We Are Everything.

And none of us will stop until we get there.

The world is self-correcting

The world doesn’t need our moralizing. It doesn’t need us to tell it how it should go, or in which direction. In fact, the world doesn’t care at all about what we think it should do.

The world is a self-correcting mechanism; the crooks become the cops, the cops become the judges. The world takes care of itself.

For a few years now I’ve been an occasional volunteer at the Atlanta mission. It is a sanctuary for the homeless, housing and feeding hundreds of people every day. They have an ingenious system in which individuals are helped back on their feet: they grow up through the ranks, from kitchen help all the way up to administration, taking on more and more responsibility as they progress in their recovery. The end result is a system run entirely by and for the homeless. In other words, it is self-correcting apparatus.

In a way, the world is like a Rubik’s cube built with a mini-computer inside. There’s a video of it on YouTube. You disarrange it, then put it down on the table. It scurries around the table as the sides automatically readjust themselves, one move at a time, and in less than a minute, voila!

So, once we know that the world uses friction and conflict to correct itself – always! – we can finally liberate ourselves from all the worry and fear that keep us imprisoned, trying to correct it. It will never be corrected, but it is always correcting itself. If it needs us, it will use us. Otherwise, it doesn’t need our fretting…

It only wants our TRUST.

That’s the only way we are able to free our minds from chaos and conflict… and begin envisioning a new direction, a completely different future… for humanity.

You don’t get to control my thoughts anymore!

One day we wake up and see how conditioned we’ve become by believing the madness and the poison of today’s “news.” That’s the day we’ll jump to our feet and declare, in a loud voice:

“You don’t get to control my level of consciousness anymore!”

TV news is gaslighting us continuously. Not just with its content, but moreover with its very modality of thought: it’s only interested in winners and losers, in blame and judgement, in victimization, in constant conflict and division. It doesn’t inform us, it traps us! It polarizes us (by design), confuses us, and leaves us disimpowered, hurt and angry, afraid to think for ourselves. In other words, it makes us easy to manipulate.

This level of consciousness is so limited—so toxic—that it no longer deserves even the smallest amount of our attention. We need to stay above the fray, friends… and shut this level off… for good.

Instead, life is about growth, miracles, unity, and win-win solutions. It’s about cycles, acceptance, inclusion… without boogeymen… a world so much more beautiful than what we’ve been presented that most of us don’t even believe it’s possible anymore. Oh, but it is!

Once WE decide that we will no longer tolerate anything less than civil, cooperative, non-judgemental thinking, working together in a spirit of harmony, we can finally begin to make a real difference in the world. Once we turn our backs that old, toxic mentality, it loses its power over us. In fact, the world will have no alternative than to turn around and follow us. It’s our attention it’s striving to capture—not just as a consumer, but as a follower—and once we stop allowing it to dictate how we think, culture will change direction… in a heartbeat.

The world is changing… but not superficially, as the news would have us believe. It’s raising its vibration every day to whole new levels. The question is… will we be raising our level of consciousness to keep up with it?

We get to decide for ourselves what level we want to live in, and if we want to lift ourselves, we have to stop allowing others to pull us down to their level. As Martin Luther King Jr. wrote, “Let no man pull you low enough to hate him.”

Free at Last

No days of the week. No appointment later. No plans for dinner. Just a brief moment, in between parking the car and heading into the gym… free-floating in the present, and clueless on all counts except one:

How great it feels to be alive.

I feel the pulsing of my blood. The softness of my heart. The air itself. Ahh, presence! This is how I should feel every moment of the day… if only I felt it.

See, whenever I exit those mental machinations, even for a minute, it’s incredible. It can be the most magical part of my day, but I have to notice it… not just blank out. Once my mind is checked out, it usually stops recording. It goes into old loops, old memories, old plans and regrets. I’m at the car… and suddenly I’m at the check-in counter. What happened to the minutes? Where did they go?

Well, we all need a new apparatus to stay aware when our minds go quiet… a different instrument… one which never misses these blessed opportunities, these rare opportunities to stretch out its wings. There’s a part of us that wants us to notice these occasions, too… and share them with us.

That’s our soul calling: hitherto in exile, living off of the mind’s grid… and ready when you are!

The Wave Seeks The Ocean

Admit it

You don’t know

What you want.

You never will.

Even if you did

It wouldn’t

Make you happy.

What you

Truly want

Is so enormous

So expansive

Nothing less

Than All There Is

Will suffice.

Oh, weary traveller

If you seek rest

Set your sights on the

Greatest prey

Of all…

On your




Focus Upwards

Why do you try to align

The outside world, friend?

It will never happen that way

Save your precious energy.

Focus not around,

But above.

Pull your attention inwards

The points of your crown

Reaching upwards.

The outside world has been

Patiently waiting for you

Like a forgotten mirror

To align yourself

So that it can change, too

Not with activity but by

Your peaceful presence

Your expanding love.


Yes, you have control

But not how you thought.

Adjust your alignment

Reach upwards

Not outwards

And finally reclaim

Like a magical child

Those magical powers

You hid away

So long ago

Bringing into alignment

The entire universe

With a most



Into One Process

Let the Universe
Do what it wants.
When it speaks through you,
Let it speak.
When it acts through you,
Let it act.
You’re a channel now.
Whatever it
Appears to be
Don’t doubt
For a second
Its perfection,
Even when it appears
To be wrong.

You can’t control it
Or understand it, so
Disconnect your
So-called levers.
No more filters
Or middlemen.

Just allow it to
Work its magic
Without constant
and you’ll begin
To be shown
Its marvellous

Hold Fast to Center!


Watching politics these days is like watching a train wreck in slow motion. You see the spin, the blame, the hype, the evasions, the finger-pointing… and you know it will lead to greater conflict, not to resolution. “Don’t they see how they could do this better?,” you think. “They could easily avoid this problem if they just listened to one another.”

So you study, you watch the news, you learn the data, trying to understand who’s right and who’s wrong. You establish an opinion, a beachhead. And that’s how you get caught: it’s the idea of a peaceful resolution that keeps you hooked in an illusion. Because it’s not people who are fighting, it’s a level of consciousness YOU are stuck in.

This low level of consciousness is created and maintained specifically by polarization, by “right” and “wrong” thinking. At this level, nothing gets resolved…. because that is not the purpose of this level of consciousness!

We’re all here to learn something very simple: to resist the temptation to enter into this polarization… especially polarized conversations. You know, the ones that leave us frustrated, anxious and combative, the ones that create enemies instead of friends? Yeah, those. Well, conflict is a great teacher, it turns out. And exhausting. Sooner or later we cannot but see the futility of getting involved… not because we’re afraid of “letting the other side win,” or “appearing to be timid,” but because we see that polarized discussions make us feel awful afterwards. They pull us out of our center, and when we lose that, we lose any chance of finding a resolution.

Perhaps that’s what Albert Einstein was talking about when he said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

And since we all need to learn how to stay in our center, we’re tempted to enter into the arena over and over again… until we get utterly exhausted in combat. That’s the lesson here. Others will try to goad you. They will criticise you for not taking a stance (the one in middle always takes shots from both sides), but one day you find you’re simply too weary to go one more round… and you begin to doubt that, in any case, the problem will ever be resolved “out there”. You suspect that it doesn’t even want to be resolved. Resolution isn’t the teacher… futility is! exhaustion is! And suddenly, you see the world as just a movie, trying to pull you in to it with its endless supply of catastrophe and disaster… and the only solution, like the computer at the end of WarGames learns, is: Not To Play.

This doesn’t mean that you won’t help. Please don’t get me wrong. It means you’ll be a calm onlooker, knowing that this is a test for you and for you alone, a test only you can resolve… by not getting sucked into the belief that it needs you to fix it. The lesson is to pull away from it, mentally and emotionally.

That’s when a magical door appears. There, in between the noise and the tumult, we suddenly have a choice: either to re-enter the chaos, trying to “help” or “be right” or “get involved” or any of the other convincing slogans we hear all around us… or go through the door, alone, deep within ourselves… into a whole new level of consciousness.

From there, you see the problem was never out there. The problem was believing that the outside world needed (or even wanted!) resolving. It’s not that “they” are ignorant… it’s that you are… by getting pulled into this level of consciousness over and over again! Conflict is the teacher, you finally figured out how to “resolve” this “problem” —internally — and because you’re sitting this one out…

You graduate!

Staying With My Inner Child

I used to think money
Or a protector
Or thick walls
Would keep me safe.
But I was wrong.

Stay with me, says
My inner child
Don’t run away.
Don’t caretake others.
Don’t wait for others
To take care of you.
Do the inner work.

When the fear
When the anger
When the anguish comes
Stay with it
Stay with ME
Don’t run away
Don’t leave ME
This time
Your scared,

You don’t have to protect me
Or keep away these
Scary feelings.
That never works.
Just sit with me
Don’t make me feel ashamed
Or abandoned
For feeling them.
Don’t leave me this time.

Look me in the eye
Tell me you’ll stay
Tell me that
My feelings are OK
That it’s safe to feel them
With you by my side.

You’re the only one
Who can make it safe.

When I feel safe
You’ll feel safe, too
We’ll feel safe together
That’s all we ever wanted.

It’s how we treat
Our Inner Child
That makes us feel safe.
Nothing else
No external change
Will do it.

I need You
And Always.

Will you stay?